Ryan found himself drawn to the adrenaline-like energy of an old friend, because that passion and aliveness was missing within his own soul. If he is not careful he will mistake the attraction to her for something other than a yearning to come alive within himself.
Nourish Your Aliveness
Nourishing our own aliveness is the best source of keeping the passion alive in our lives, and in our sexual relationship with our spouse as well. Energy is contagious and has the power to deaden or enliven those around us.
How enticing to come home to a spouse who is new and different every single day. How enlivening it is to come home each day as an ever-growing person.
I often marvel at how much I learn and change while my husband is away at work. I wonder how he will ever catch up on my newness and the mysteries that lie within me, or how I will catch up on his. It’s a good thing we have forever to discover each other’s mysteries!
With an ever-learning mindset, it will be difficult to ever grow weary or bored of each other. If both husband and wife are continually learning and growing each day, and if we will look with new eyes, we will see and be enticed by the mysteries yet to discover in each other.
Fuel Your Passion for Life
Keep your passion for life alive by continually learning. Hunger and thirst for knowledge and wisdom. Find ways to grow and improve daily.
Don’t neglect fun and spontaneity in your life. Be interesting and interested. Find things that keep your energy energized! Reject self-medicating highs and instead seek doses of living energy and aliveness.
How do you find passion and enthusiasm for life? For me, one way to feel alive and to get fired up a bit is to follow politics. Tackling the taboo subject of sex also energizes me. It’s so invigorating to tackle something that I know is a major challenge for many.
Motivating people to change and grow personally and relationally keeps changing me too. Even motherhood keeps me on my toes enough to keep me alert and attentive to inner tremblings and invitations to develop in ways I may still be a little rough around the edges.
If you’re looking for a great way to feel alive, dancing on your kids’ Wii game system dance pad may help!
You know, even stillness, quiet and solitude can be as energizing and mind expanding as any mental or physical workout. Really liking who you are inside and out, weaknesses and all, can help you feel joy and peace.
Start looking for the pockets of energy around you. Invite aliveness into your life. Be around people who energize you. Grow yourself mentally, emotionally, socially, spiritually and sexually. Take a class. Read a book.
Do something new. Do something hard. Do something scary. Embrace change and see the passion become more constant for you. What these all have in common is the ability to awaken your aliveness, which can fuel your intimate passion for your spouse when directed by your intention.
Face Your Fears
I recently volunteered to make campaign phone calls for a presidential candidate. I’m not usually a shy or easily frightened person. But having this little script to read to complete strangers who may not be terribly happy about me calling them was quite unnerving, to be honest.
But the challenge and the associated fear was surprisingly energizing. I soon found that as I pushed through the fear, because of my dedication to a higher purpose, the fear left me until I didn’t want to stop.
Wracking my brain to sort out the political process and the conflicting principles is as mentally energizing as taking a class on psychological theories, or as physically demanding (for a non-dancer like myself) as trying to get the dance steps right on the Wii dance pad.
Nourish Sexual Passion
Add to all these ways of feeling alive a conscious habit of nourishing sexual thoughts and feelings (which is a must for many women) passion can be more permanently alive within. Passion in the differing dimensions of one’s life provides fuel for the passion within one’s bedroom.
Personal aliveness is a more permanent source, than a new sexual technique, for keeping the passion alive in your marriage…and more specifically in your bedroom