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Straight Talk about Strengthening Marriage!
    December 15, 2004   (#04-5)
Just a personal note to wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas!
May God bless each of you to find joy and peace this holiday season.
May you also find increased connection and passion in your marriage
and family relationships this coming year.              ~~Laura~~

1)  Your Relationship Wish List
2)  Don’t Forget Date Night
3)  Hardcover Books Available Online

4)  Certified Family Life Educator (CFLE)
5)  E-Newsletter Archive
6)  Words to Ponder—Love Needs to be Nourished


    Christmas is a time when children eagerly create a wish list of
everything they hope Santa will bring them. This Christmas make
a list of everything you want your marriage to be—as if you could
have it all!!! Whatever you can conceive and believe will begin to
manifest itself in your life (for good or for ill). What you focus on
you get more of, so be more conscious of your thoughts and focus
on what you want rather than on what you don’t want. 

    Your “Relationship Wish List” is like a mental/written blueprint
of the marriage you want to have. If you can believe it, and can
maintain that belief for as long as it takes, you can achieve it. Don’t
limit yourself or your spouse. Write down everything you want.
Then, just like Christmas morning, feel the anticipation and
excitement—believing that you will get everything you’ve asked
for…in God’s perfect timing. Your wish list might include some of
the following:

  • I feel loved by my spouse.
  • I love and accept my spouse unconditionally.
  • We have fun together.
  • We are each other’s best friends.
  • We love to share our thoughts and feelings.
  • I enjoy physical intimacy with my spouse.
  • My spouse enjoys physical intimacy with me.
  • We are both working to be more ONE—emotionally, spiritually and physically.
  • We make each other a priority by scheduling a date night each week.

Add to and/or review your “Relationship Wish List” regularly and
watch your relationship begin to blossom!

    (See “Creating Your Marriage Vision” in Chapter 8 of And They
Were Not Ashamed.


    With all the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season remember
that the greatest gifts are not necessarily those we buy with money,
but are those where we give of our time and self. Be sure to make
time for your marriage by reserving a “Date Night” as a special
Christmas gift to your spouse during this holiday season. Get away
for a romantic dinner or a quiet evening of listening to Christmas
music by the fireplace with Christmas lights twinkling. If free evenings
are scarce during the holidays, surprise your spouse with a lunch date!

    Regular Date Nights might also be a great New Year’s Resolution
for you and your spouse to increase the intimate connection in your
relationship. I have often said…I hope I live to see the day that
Friday night (or Saturday) becomes as sacred for Date Night
or “marriage night” as Monday is for “family night.”

    (For more information, see Chapter 10 “Becoming ONE—
Emotional Intimacy” And They Were Not Ashamed.)


    If you are having a hard time finding the hardcover edition of the
book And They Were Not Ashamed –Strengthening Marriage
through Sexual Fulfillment
you may need to buy it online. Both
hardcover and softcover editions were published at the same time
to provide the softcover for those who wanted the least expensive
version and the hardcover for those who wanted the nicer quality
and durability for themselves or for a special gift. If your bookstore
chose not to carry both editions you can buy the hardback book here:

You’ll even get the special online price of $20.95 for this beautiful
373-page book.


    Author, Laura M. Brotherson, recently applied for and has received
the Certified Family Life Educator (CFLE) designation from the
National Council on Family Relations ( Family life
professionals who submit to a thorough review process of their academic
preparation, professional development, and work experience can be
granted recognition as a qualified family life educator. This credential
denotes a proven background and knowledge in the following content

Families and Society, Internal Family Dynamics, Human
Growth and Development, Human Sexuality, Interpersonal
Relationships, Family Resource Management, Parent
Education, Family Law and Public Policy, Ethics, and
Family Life Education Methodology.


    If you have missed out on any of the previous “Strengthening Marriage”
newsletters (…those content filters aren’t yet smart enough to tell the
good stuff from the bad stuff! J) you can catch up by checking out our
e-Newsletter Archive:

    In addition to spreading Christmas cheer—share this newsletter by
forwarding it to just one person who might want to put an extra spark
into their relationships. It’s a gift of marital nourishment that will keep
giving all year long!

6)  WORDS TO PONDER—Love Needs to be Nourished

Love is like a flower, and, like the body, it needs constant feeding.”

~~Spencer W. Kimball~~

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