“Found Book in Park” — Sexual Success Story #1 — Strengthening Marriage.com
I am so incredibly pleased to contact you. I am about the shiest woman in the world, yet, I really need to let you know how much I appreciate you. I’ve been married 3 times now. The latest for 6 years. My first and second marriages ended in less than 2 years. Both divorces were over fighting about the lack of sex.
My current marriage has been very sexless as well. I’ve allowed my husband to have sex with me once a month on the average. After each time I would shower for a long time just to feel clean again. Last Thursday, while walking in the park, I noticed a book on the ground right next to a trail. I walked by but came back to check on it later. It was still there. Someone walking or riding a bike had dropped it. It was very much intended for me to read.
As I read the title “And They Were Not Ashamed” I was very interested. When I read the next part of the title and it mentioned SEX I came close to dropping it–due to being raised in a very strict religion, with my father being the preacher, and being taught by my mother that sex was forbidden. I was also taught that if any man touched my body in any way then I was dirty in the eyes of God.
Many sermons were given where my dad boldly told the men in the church to “wean” themselves from sex of any kind. Even music and dancing was forbidden. He said many times that it was only of the Devil and that even in marriage sex was bad.
I took your book home and started to read. I must tell you I could not put it down. I read it till late into the night. I read most of it after work the next two nights. My husband was in California for 5 days for the company he works for.
For the first time in my life I finally was convinced that sex was GOOD, and that sex was meant to be ENJOYED. For the first time in my life I know for sure that sex between my husband and I is not dirty, selfish, carnal, etc.
The next day I asked to get off work at noon so I could go home to greet my husband. I was so nervous. When he came through the door with his luggage he was very surprised to see me home so early. I told him I had a surprise for him. Then I did something I had never done in my life. I took his clothes off. He was stunned. Then I shocked him nearly to death. I took my clothes off.
Till now my husband had never seen me naked. I always dressed in the closet or in the bathroom with the door locked.
I then slowly kissed him like never before. I even told him many times that I loved him. He stopped me and said he didn’t understand what was going on. I told him a little about finding the book and promised to tell him all about it later. Which I did.
We actually “made love” for the first time instead of just “having sex.” Something I’ve never been able to do before. We did it all over the house. We even took a shower together. That was a lot of fun. There are many good things about lovemaking now, but probably the most noticeable for me is I never feel dirty anymore about it.
I finally accepted that God wanted me to enjoy it so I’m now teaching myself to always “relax” and “enjoy” this gift from God. My husband actually cried a couple of times. He thanked me for finally seeing sex as “a good thing.”
He then told on himself. He said he had some serious things to tell me. He went into detail about how our marriage was so good and so right, all except for the intimate things. He then explained that he had gone outside of our marriage to be fulfilled in that area. I know he got tired of me always telling him “NO.” He was honest with me and told me everything. He also found relief by masturbating, looking at porn and that he had also been having a fling with a gal from work. Thankfully we’ve been able to work all of that out now.
Thanks to you I love having sex now. I’d never understood it in the past, but now I know it’s a precious gift. We’re even considering having children now also. Thank you so much for opening my eyes to a whole new world. Life has never been this good for me. You have totally changed our lives.
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