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Hi Deela--I have transferred your question to the Open Forum 2 Discussion page on my Strengthening Marriage blog and replied as well. Hope it is helpful.
Subject:
Thank you! Please Continue!
Date:
September 21 2010
Comments:
Laura, thank you, thank you for bringing to light all the facets of intimacy in marriage.
Deseret Media Corportation is addressing the subject of pornography in their "Out in the Light" campaign. I feel this is wonderful; however, I think that this campaign could do as much harm as good if this campaign does not address improving intimacy in marriage. Porn use, romantic novel use, or "Twilight" use is damaging to marriages because it is an illusion to intimacy. People are often attracted to porn, romance novels or "Twilight" movies because their intimacy needs are not being met.
Laura, I urge you please to contact Deseret Media Corporation if you have not already and offer your insight. Porn use is often the result of unrealistic and realistic needs. We need to speak the love language of our spouse. Husbands often turn to porn because their wives care less about physical/sexual intimacy. How do wives feel when their husbands care less about talking with them -- it goes both ways!
Thank you for your great work! Please carry on!
Date:
September 16 2010
Comments:
I have tried to get on the Blog, but for some reason I am registered but a password has never been sent to me. My wife and I have struggled with intimacy over the course of our marriage. From the time of our first child was born it has never been the same in fact it has been difficult. There has been a lot of outside stress in her life and I have tried to help her in every way I know how to. My wife sees intimacy as one more thing on her plate and it is not a priority. It became a duty for her and not too often either. Nothing excites her physically. We hold hands and she likes to snuggle, but when she thinks it will move to other things she won’t. She does see the need to change, wants to, and wants to work on our relationship. How do I help her to switch gears mentally and have positive thoughts and beliefs about sex, in general, her sexuality, and the sexual relationship in our marriage? How does she learn that it really begins with her as Laura Brotherson has said, “It is a conscious decision.” I would like to have her read, us read, Laura’s book. I think it would be the place to start. But, she is still hesitant to read the book. What can I do to build the mental positive thoughts about sex in the mean time?
Subject:
the book that keeps on giving
Date:
September 9 2010
Comments:
I read your book over 2 years ago, which completely enlightened me on the subject of sexual intimacy. I'm finding now, I can go back to the book and refresh what I once learned. It's a great resource for married couples. I'm sure many marriages have been saved because of this book. Thank you, again.
Subject:
Romance novels........
Date:
August 26 2010
Name:
Nick
Comments:
I found this site after reading several others wondering why women read romance novels. My wife does this to such an extent, that I believe it to be an obsession, and most recently, she has had an affair. I try very hard to make her happy, being responsible, a hard working man who is totally devoted to her and the home. I also am trying very hard to get past the fact that she cheated on me. The new man, whom she says she loved, also dumped her for the sake of preserving his own marriage, and now my wife continues to stay with me. For what reason, I do not understand. She continues to read her romance novels, which I feel contributed to her poor choices, and I feel that these types of books are not of the real world. It is quite obvious that any working man cannot compete with a fantasy, and that is where I find myself. I struggle every day with the notion to have her leave, but I do love her. Perhaps I cannot be the person she finds so attractive in any of the books she reads, and I am so tired of trying.
Subject:
need your comment
Date:
August 3 2010
Name:
Deela Hashim
Comments:
hello, I'm Deela From Malaysia, I've read your articles on "Twilight obsession and its effects on marriages". I am doing a research on Twilight effects and influences on teenagers. I do understand that u are a relationship consultant, however, i would love to know your opinion on how its effects teenagers lifestyle. if its possible, can you email me back for any confirmation??
Subject:
Bravo!
Date:
July 21 2010
Name:
Sam
Comments:
I just finished listening to your latest podcast on overcoming the good girl syndrome. Beautifully done! :0) My favorite part was "get rid of all the crappy thoughts..." LOL. I think you're right about telling people that they need to get your book and start using the tools you provide in there. They really aren't going to re-program their thoughts until they start doing the exercises. I noticed that Dr. Laura Berman uses a very similar approach to what you preach, but I find that your program is more complete and has a less worldly approach. Knowing how to teach people how to have correct attitudes towards sex is a tough mountain to climb. You are an inspiration. Bravo.
Subject:
Thank you
Date:
July 16 2010
Name:
Holly
Comments:
Thank you for all the research and work you put into "And they were not ashamed." This book and the words within it are helping to change my view on my marriage and my role as a woman and wife. I recently gifted this book to my brother's fiance. Thankyou for being so detailed and for referencing such a wide range of sources. I would like to say more but don't want to gush too much ;-) You're wonderful.
Subject:
Mormon Times Article
Date:
July 12 2010
Comments:
I agree COMPLETELY with the fact that women who obsess over 'chick-flick' type movies/books/television, are wasting time and being self-centered. Sadly, you didn't mention the fact that many women try to find comfort in 'fake' men because so many husbands start the marriage with unreal 'expectations' of their wives and often, porn. Porn is a REAL problem that often begins before the male is married.
Subject:
The Twilight Obsesson and the Effects on Marriage
Date:
July 2 2010
Name:
Jason
Comments:
I just read your article on the Twilight Obsession on Meridian Magazine online's website. All I can say is "Right On!!!". I fortunately have a wife who is obsessed with me and the kids and not that trash. But I've seen the crazyness first hand. I was trying to schedule some training for our cub scout den leaders put on by the Scouting District Executive and was told by one of the den mothers that the date that I had picked wouldn't work because the new Twilight movie was coming out. My response was that the movie was playing all day and we were only looking at an hour or two of training leaving plenty of time to go see the movie that day or even the next one. I was told that it wouldn't work because the movie theater was showing all the movies in order and she was attending all of them. Another woman chimed in that she had the same conflict. So now I'm left to wonder that if these two women are so obsessed with the Twilight franchise that they have to watch all the movies in order, how their spouses and children are treated. I have other stories of the Twilight obsession and wonder how seemingly normal women can get so caught up in a book and movie series. If I spent that much time and attention on someone or something outside my wife and kids, I'm sure I would be branded a bad person but society is telling these women that what they do is just fine.
Subject:
And They Were Not Ashamed
Date:
June 30 2010
Name:
Stephanie
Comments:
I am a follower of Love Actually and she was telling about your book And They Were Not Ashamed book/cd giveaway, it sounds amazing! I have enjoyed looking around your site, and look forward to checking out some of your resources!!
Subject:
Required reading
Date:
June 29 2010
Name:
Emil Harker
Comments:
Thanks for writing this book! It should be required reading in order to get married! As a sex therapist who works with couples that struggle in this area, you save people so much money in expenses because of the foundation you create in the hearts and minds of the men and women that have read your book. Bless you!
Subject:
Love, Actually Blog Book Giveaway
Date:
June 29 2010
Name:
Jamie
Comments:
I qualify for the "And They Were Not Ashamed" book giveaway seen on the Love, Actually blog based on meeting criteria 1 and 2.
Subject:
Buy, read and apply
Date:
June 28 2010
Name:
Chris
Comments:
If you are wanting the best marriage possible, buy, read and apply this book... it has the information and inspiration to enable you to lift your marriage to the next level, and the level beyond that...
Subject:
Thank you!
Date:
June 25 2010
Comments:
Laura, you're awesome! I've read your book, listened to all your podcasts, etc. You've helped me a lot. I understand my wife better. I can empathize with her better, and not be so selfish. Our relationship is better because of it. Hopefully I'll be blessed by her listening to or reading the book one day! She's got the "good girl syndrome" in a bad way. Even if not, I've been blessed. Thank you!
